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Once in awhile, I reflect on how most people tend to behave in relationships. The younger they are,the more games they seem to play. They lie,cheat, and seem very confused about what areal relationship is. While I understand the ego boost of playing games and (successfully) lying to one's partner, I believe most people sell themselves short by leading a life of deceit. Let me explain. They don't realize the leverage of being honest with themselves and their relationship partner or spouse. An individual who is upfront and honest about what he/she wants will get more from his/her life than the person who constantly lies. Take the man who's having an affair. It's a huge waste of a man's time to be dating or married to a woman he doesn't like AND spreading himself thin with a second woman. Women are also not left out in this. In fact, it's a big shame for any woman to be a player. Some people are just not fit to be married or in a relationship, and i

The only reason we don't get what we want in life is because of the story we keep repeating to ourselves about the reason we don't have it. Every time we stop believing the story and make a decision, we become stronger. A long time ago, I remember this business idea I had. I kept nurturing it in my mind and didn't bother sharing it with anyone for fear of idea larceny. Every day, I'd find a reason not to launch out with the idea, until one day I had ENOUGH and told myself that I was just a crackpot. It created a breakthrough and the following week, I invited a team of partners. We scrutinized the idea and set it in motion. Take inventory of your own stories. Any stories that don't serve you should be killed without hesitation. A story is simply an excuse or something you repeat to yourself all the time about why you're not producing a certain result. We all have stories. The key is to be aware of them and to not believe them. Choose

Sequence (the order you do things) matters a lot. For example, let's say your phone number is 803-845-1000. Whether I dial 845-803-1000 or even 308-845-1000, I won't reach you. It may be the SAME numbers, but the sequence makes all the difference. My point is that you may know what you have to do to fulfil your destiny or make positive impact right where you are, but if you do it in the wrong order, you won't create tangible success. That's why I've always kept a small checklist on my mobile device that I review several times a day. This list reminds me of the important steps in the purpose activation process - from feeding my mind with positive energy to fulfilling the Kingdom Mandate, and so on. Never let me down. Whatever roadblocks you're facing right now may simply mean that you're doing the right things, but in the wrong order. Grabbing a pen and a piece of paper, and taking some times to review what you've done after

It is common knowledge that a lot of men really want something from women but they just don't know how to get it. I believe it's normal for a man to want a woman to give him the love and respect he desires. But most of the time, they also forget to ask themselves what women WANT. It's all about them - their needs and desires. Me, me, me and me! If this is you, then read this quote from Zig Ziglar: "You can have everything in life you want, if you will just help other people get what they want." When it comes to dating and marriage relationships, I'm confident you can have any level of success you envision if you just give women what they want from a man. Fortunately, contrary to common beliefs, it's relatively easy to give women what they want and to make them happy. Here are the three main things women want 1. Being heard Women crave men who can really listen. Don't try to solve her problem or fix her. Just listen, a

Few weeks ago, I attended an interesting webinar on the psychology of success. It was great, and I took a lot of notes. There was this female facilitator on the program who shared how, every time she was after a goal, she seemed to just give up when she was close to success. She was very ambitious and educated, but every time she was about to succeed, she dropped her efforts. In the course of speaking, she revealed that she grew up in a small, remote village in Africa, where the only women who had money and status were PROSTITUTES. So, she developed the belief that, if she became successful, people would think she's a prostitute. It was totally irrational, and she knew it. But the belief was so strong and ingrained in her subconscious mind that she kept sabotaging herself. A belief can destroy or build your life. I met students on campus who had EVERYTHING to excel in their fields of study, but always found a way to dread pushing themselves... It's

A long time ago, I learned from Tony Robbins the concept of "stacking". The idea is that anything you stack mentally or verbally will eventually influence how you feel about someone or something. For example, if you start making a list of everything you don't like about someone and keep adding to the list, you'll end up hating this person - even if you liked this person in the first place. On the other hand, if I ask you to list everything you like about your job and force you to go to 100 reasons why you love your job, it may radically change the way you look at your job. Stacking is very powerful, because things are never black or white. It all depends on how you look at them and what you choose to stack. Often, when we feel negative or sad about our life, it's because we stack mentally or verbally stack up all the things that suck in it. But as soon as we start stacking all the things we're grateful for and happy about in our life, we feel e

There is one thing people lack in life that prevents them from reaching their goals. It's called having a mentor. People who have mentors reach their goals more often than people who don't. Here's 4 reasons you need a mentor: A mentor will.. 1. Hold you accountable, even when you run out of motivation 2. Make you productive, even when you feel like you're not making progress 3. Stay positive, even when you're surrounded by negativity 4. Keep you focused, even when you have a lot going on. I didn't think of mentors as important to my success in life until I realized that virtually everyone I've been looking up to as role model still undergo one form of mentorship or the other. In other words, highly successful people still have mentors. To be honest, finding a mentor isn't easy. Most mentors these days are too busy with personal projects to make themselves available. But there's good news. The internet has made it possibl

When you want to make your marriage work, it's all about removing constraints and the useless things that constitute obstacles in your way. It's very hard to engender intimacy with your spouse when you have things between you and your marriage. This is why I'm always emphatic about keeping only what's necessary in your life. Anything that doesn't have a particular usage needs to go, else it will ruin your marriage. I know a lot of married men and women who are too clumsy. They live in a total disorder; hence, their marriages is in disorder. The modern world has added a lot of complexity and layers of stuff we don't really need. That's why our brain is confused and can't even take purposeful action. Imagine the newly wedded couples who want to experience heaven on earth in their marriage but keep getting chat notifications from ex dating partners. Or the man who wants to conquer the world, but can't invest time in his family

If any aspect of your life is at the bottom, you have nowhere to go but up. But if you continue to feel sorry for yourself, hope that others will support you or just wait for something to happen, you’re going to be waiting a long time for positive changes, if they happen at all. It's sort of like when you know you need a breakthrough in your finances. No one can do it for you. Acquiring financial education through books and other alte rnative sources, cultivating an attitude of giving, starting small in terms of running a business or getting a paid employment, living within your means and saving for future investment, it's all up to you. Sure, you can have a team of people who help encourage you to keep hope alive, but those people can't activate the breakthrough for you Taking action for your personal success is entirely your responsibility. And it's not as hard as you think. Here are a few tips Kim Kiyosaki wrote in a blog to help you start t

I encourage both men and women to have ambition and to convey it when they interact with the opposite sex. Some young people are put off by this and ask me why they should be ambitious in order to attract the man or woman of their dreams. What if they just want to have a normal life? It's a good point, but look at the definition of "ambition": 1. An earnest desire for some type of achievement or distinction, as power, honour, fame, or wealth, and the willingness to strive for its attainment 2. The object, state, or result desired or sought after. 3. Desire for work or activity; energy. 4. To seek after earnestly; aspire to. I want you to look at definitions #3 and #4. This is how you should look at ambition. Honestly, you don't need to aim at becoming Donald Trump or Hilary Clinton. Don't think this will get you a soul mate. But you should have a specific desire that is important enough for you to put some energy into it. Not only will you fee

One of my very successful virtual coaches told me that if there were ONE key to success in all endeavours of life, it would be simply "DEFIANCE."   An attitude of defiance is solely a resistance to surrender to social norms and the status quo. It's the man who quits his job in a recession to start a business. It's the young person who gives up his many years of formal education to pursue his passion, not minding what people would say. It's the man who chooses to create abundance in the midst of scarcity. It's the man or woman who has the courage to be the first of his/her kind to achieve a particular goal. The world is full of fainthearted, self-doubting individuals, afraid of making waves and going after what they really want in life. So, cultivating a state of defiance is critical. The world is changing so fast that only those who can rapidly and boldly break free from social norms and "used to be" mentality will win the

If you ask me if success in life is easy to come by, I'll simply tell you the obvious: NO! But if you focus on the first step of whatever you want to achieve, the most difficult part would have been taken care of. Here is an interesting story to buttress my point. One day, I was at a camp meeting and I met this aspiring writer. I asked him how his book was coming along. "I didn't really getting started… I'm not sure my stuff will be good enough…" He was so insecure about his writing that he didn't even START writing anything. It's hard to become good at something you don't practice. I just explained to him that what really matters is taking the first step. The first step is really all that matters. If you can be the man or woman who always takes the first step, you become a force of nature. That's a really counter-intuitive secret to success. Every success I've had in my life was created because I took this first step.

When you want to get your significant other totally devoted to you, you need to take a few things into consideration. I made a list of the things you need to pay attention to, particularly in marriage relationships. 1. Can he or she be devoted to someone? Realistically, there are relationship partners who will cheat, lie, and betray you with impunity… So, it's important to be selective with the man/woman you want to spend your life with. This is so important that if you make a mistake, you'll most likely live with it for the rest of your life. 2 Are you constantly developing yourself? If you have any of those common issues and problems that most people seem to have - like jealousy, control issues, pettiness, sloppiness, the tendency to be a chuff, etc., it would benefit you greatly to work on fixing those traits and becoming a more secure, emotionally stable and likeable individual. 3. Are you creating an atmosphere for deep ROMANCE? Maybe you overestima

The Science Of Being Great by Wallace D. Wattles is one book I recently read and I've not been able to recover from its tremendous impact. As a matter of fact, no words can describe the incredible wisdom found on the pages of the book better than the words of the author himself: “This book is for the men arid women, young or old, who wish to make the most of life by making the most of themselves. I have tried to show plainly, simply, and without unnecessary words, the way to power and capability; it is written so that he who runs may read. I know that the system herein set forth will work; it cannot fail. And I know that the men and women who practice these methods of action with sincere hearts will enter into the powerful life; they will be the children of the Highest, and stand among the great ones of the world. I hope you who read this will be among them… No mere reading of books can develop a great personality; nothing can make you great but thought; therefore think, Think, T

I'll start by saying this: Most often, relationship failure and disappointment is not necessarily a function of what went wrong in the dating process, but a function of dating the wrong person in the first place. It's therefore important, that you know the attributes of the 5 types of men never to date, from the standpoint of common sense. The first one is DRIVE. To have a drive means to have clear goals, aspiration, and a vision for one's life. The man with a drive is also intelligent because he feeds his mind with good information through books, tapes, and seminars. If your critical assessment of the man in your life shows he is lacking in drive, RUN! Such a fellow is not likely to go far in life. The second is IMPACT. You don't want to be stupid, and fall for a man who has nothing to contribute to your life. He doesn't challenge you to dream big or attempt great things. He doesn't respect you, share your values or even stay true to you. All he cares