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One of the best ways to experience marital bliss is to clone successful marriages. In my many years of analyzing and gathering information about marriage and love relationships, I've noticed the consistent patterns that happy and successful marriage partners follow. They engage in weighty efforts to build strong bonds, take responsibility for bringing out the best in each other, and are quick to patch the holes in their relationship . These consistent patterns revolve around the fundamental principles that I call the 10 commandments of a great marriage. 1. YOU SHALL FORGIVE EACH OTHER'S FAULT AND LEARN TO SAY SORRY If there's anything you must learn early about relationship and marriage, it is to understand that love thrives on forgiveness. It's paramount to constantly forgive your spouse for their eccentricities and annoying habits, and also forgive yourself for any mistakes you make if you truly want to be happy in your marriage. The reaso

Last Saturday, I was watching the Champions League final. After watching awhile, that got me thinking... It's amazing how the sports industry is its own industry. A universe with its stars, fans, awards, global events, and billions of dollars in revenue. According to Forbes, the sports industry is expected to reach $73.5 billion by 2019, just in North America. In Europe, professional soccer stars are often criticized in the media for their 7 and 8 figure salaries. Despite this, their salaries are higher than ever. Two things you won't find in professional sports are political and social considerations. This universe is hermetic to anything going on in society and that pretty much explains why it's such a successful industry. This is very similar to how I encourage you to live life. Create your own universe or planet with your own rules. For that, you must 'isolate' yourself from the rest of society, particularly social issues. The sports

From the day you are born, you are surrounded by rules. They manifest themselves through statements, like "should", "must", "never", and "always". Some of these rules exist to protect you. For example, never drive drunk and always respect one another. Unfortunately, other rules are unnecessary or irrelevant. Rules like, you should always "keep your thoughts to yourself", and you should get a higher education and get a good job. We are fed these rules through parents, the school system, and mainstream media. When you reach 25 for instance, you've been conditioned for 25 years. Some people are in their 40s and don't even realize they are still living their life based on old rules. They stay at jobs they don't like, and believe they can't quit to start their own business. Fortunately, the brain is plastic. I don't mean that the brain is made of plastic… Neuroplasticity or brain plasticity - refers

We live in a society that is addicted to distractions. The average attention span as at today is 8.23 seconds - which is less than a Goldfish's (9 seconds). Most of this distraction is fueled by social media and smartphones. What does this have to do with you as a purpose-driven individual? A LOT. Our present social existence is in a constant flow of distraction. And you can hardly live life on your own terms in the midst of distractions. You'll also find more and more people connected virtually, but only helping one another to lose focus and be wasteful in time and intellectual resources. Lack of focus and low productivity do not go without negative consequences. I can only hope that you take this simple advice to heart, not only to avert the negative consequences of being susceptible to distractions but also to get the edge in life. THIS is your opportunity to stand out from the crowd. Whatever the MAJORITY is doing, do the opposite. Have an a

OK because I was thinking about how most people tend to run their business, I decided to share something really good with you today. You are probably aware that goal-setting is one of the most powerful tools for putting your life in perspective. It doesn't just apply to your life. It applies to your business as well. There are four types of goals every business owner should set: 1. Business expansion goals 2. Customer relationship goals 3. Strategic innovation goals 4. Sales/Marketing goals You can set one to three goals per category. When you set goals and review them daily, you're ahead of 97% of entrepreneurs out there who just go through life and business without a game plan. You're less at the mercy of anyone or say competitors who don't have your best interest at heart. Of course, you can add other different types of goals, but these are the bare minimum you need. The big myth about goals is that they're set in stone. Nothing cou

In his 1999 book, "The Age of Spiritual Machines", Ray Kurzweil proposed "The Law of Accelerating Returns", which said the rate of change in a wide variety of evolutionary systems (including, but not limited to, the growth of technologies) tends to increase exponentially. The pace of change in various areas of life is increasing exponentially. For the records, Brexit, Trump, and the rise of Asia's middle class typify major examples of these exponential changes. Like every exponential change, this shift can create either disruptive stress or opportunity for business owners and entrepreneurs. I like to think in terms of opportunity, so let me offer a few key ideas that will help you create incredible business breakthrough today and in the coming years. 1. NO MORE LOCAL AND LINEAR THINKING As human beings, we naturally think locally and in a linear manner. We associate and marry locally, go to a nearby school, and follow a year-based educational system

There are three things that control your life. Your strategy, your stories, and your state. A strategy is simply a way to go from A to B or get a specific result. This is why learning, training, and mentoring/coaching are very important. The second are your stories. If I give you a plan to lose weight, but you keep telling me that you have "big bones", you'll never use it. Stories are the reasons we give to ourselves and to others for why we don't have or can't do something. Sometimes, the story gets repeated so much with intensity that it becomes ALIVE. Have you ever met someone who's having a problem today and explaining that it is because of something that happened five years ago? This is his/her story. Finally, there's your state. Your state is simply where you are emotionally. Are you tired, vibrant, excited, passionate, etc? States change during the day and the week. Guess what? Certain states trigger certain stories. You can cond

You have most likely heard the phrase, "He has an attitude!" This is usually a derogatory remark made about a person with a disagreeable attitude. But the word 'attitude' is an important one when discussing entrepreneurship or business ownership. A good attitude...a good mindset can't insure success but a bad attitude and a bad mindset can certainly guarantee failure. Here are some wrong attitudes that will absolutely guarantee failure in business: I CAN WORK WHEN I WANT TO Wrong, wrong, wrong! You can't just work when you feel like it. You have to expect to put in many long and very tedious hours of very hard work to make a new business enterprise succeed. I CAN GET RICH QUICK! You couldn't be more wrong and you are not only wrong but you are putting yourself in danger as well. There are bazillions of crooks out there who are waiting for their next easy mark and if you are looking for a quick way to get rich, you ARE the next mark. It is possi

What you believe has a tremendous impact on how well you can deal with the challenges of life. As a matter of fact, I believe that your belief system is the single most important factor in your success and happiness. In the course of my life, I held onto 4 beliefs that helped me through tough challenges. They helped me turn around my finances, faith, career, and interpersonal relationships. Here they are: 1. EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON AND A PURPOSE TO SERVE ME This is the belief that helped me find the opportunities and the gift even in the face of adversity. 2. WHAT DOESN'T KILL ME MAKES ME STRONGER This is the belief that gets me going when I'm sad or hurt. I've scaled through moments of depression with the help of this belief. 3. I HAVE NOTHING TO FEAR, BUT FEAR ITSELF This is the belief that I repeat to myself every time I want to do something that scares me. This one is extremely liberating once you internalize it. What would you do wit

Once in awhile, I reflect on how most people tend to behave in relationships. The younger they are,the more games they seem to play. They lie,cheat, and seem very confused about what areal relationship is. While I understand the ego boost of playing games and (successfully) lying to one's partner, I believe most people sell themselves short by leading a life of deceit. Let me explain. They don't realize the leverage of being honest with themselves and their relationship partner or spouse. An individual who is upfront and honest about what he/she wants will get more from his/her life than the person who constantly lies. Take the man who's having an affair. It's a huge waste of a man's time to be dating or married to a woman he doesn't like AND spreading himself thin with a second woman. Women are also not left out in this. In fact, it's a big shame for any woman to be a player. Some people are just not fit to be married or in a relationship, and i

The only reason we don't get what we want in life is because of the story we keep repeating to ourselves about the reason we don't have it. Every time we stop believing the story and make a decision, we become stronger. A long time ago, I remember this business idea I had. I kept nurturing it in my mind and didn't bother sharing it with anyone for fear of idea larceny. Every day, I'd find a reason not to launch out with the idea, until one day I had ENOUGH and told myself that I was just a crackpot. It created a breakthrough and the following week, I invited a team of partners. We scrutinized the idea and set it in motion. Take inventory of your own stories. Any stories that don't serve you should be killed without hesitation. A story is simply an excuse or something you repeat to yourself all the time about why you're not producing a certain result. We all have stories. The key is to be aware of them and to not believe them. Choose

Sequence (the order you do things) matters a lot. For example, let's say your phone number is 803-845-1000. Whether I dial 845-803-1000 or even 308-845-1000, I won't reach you. It may be the SAME numbers, but the sequence makes all the difference. My point is that you may know what you have to do to fulfil your destiny or make positive impact right where you are, but if you do it in the wrong order, you won't create tangible success. That's why I've always kept a small checklist on my mobile device that I review several times a day. This list reminds me of the important steps in the purpose activation process - from feeding my mind with positive energy to fulfilling the Kingdom Mandate, and so on. Never let me down. Whatever roadblocks you're facing right now may simply mean that you're doing the right things, but in the wrong order. Grabbing a pen and a piece of paper, and taking some times to review what you've done after

It is common knowledge that a lot of men really want something from women but they just don't know how to get it. I believe it's normal for a man to want a woman to give him the love and respect he desires. But most of the time, they also forget to ask themselves what women WANT. It's all about them - their needs and desires. Me, me, me and me! If this is you, then read this quote from Zig Ziglar: "You can have everything in life you want, if you will just help other people get what they want." When it comes to dating and marriage relationships, I'm confident you can have any level of success you envision if you just give women what they want from a man. Fortunately, contrary to common beliefs, it's relatively easy to give women what they want and to make them happy. Here are the three main things women want 1. Being heard Women crave men who can really listen. Don't try to solve her problem or fix her. Just listen, a

Few weeks ago, I attended an interesting webinar on the psychology of success. It was great, and I took a lot of notes. There was this female facilitator on the program who shared how, every time she was after a goal, she seemed to just give up when she was close to success. She was very ambitious and educated, but every time she was about to succeed, she dropped her efforts. In the course of speaking, she revealed that she grew up in a small, remote village in Africa, where the only women who had money and status were PROSTITUTES. So, she developed the belief that, if she became successful, people would think she's a prostitute. It was totally irrational, and she knew it. But the belief was so strong and ingrained in her subconscious mind that she kept sabotaging herself. A belief can destroy or build your life. I met students on campus who had EVERYTHING to excel in their fields of study, but always found a way to dread pushing themselves... It's

A long time ago, I learned from Tony Robbins the concept of "stacking". The idea is that anything you stack mentally or verbally will eventually influence how you feel about someone or something. For example, if you start making a list of everything you don't like about someone and keep adding to the list, you'll end up hating this person - even if you liked this person in the first place. On the other hand, if I ask you to list everything you like about your job and force you to go to 100 reasons why you love your job, it may radically change the way you look at your job. Stacking is very powerful, because things are never black or white. It all depends on how you look at them and what you choose to stack. Often, when we feel negative or sad about our life, it's because we stack mentally or verbally stack up all the things that suck in it. But as soon as we start stacking all the things we're grateful for and happy about in our life, we feel e